-The night before last, I hung out with my best Lissa. We drank, we talked about everything. We talked about a lot of hard stuff, but with her, talking about the hard stuff feels healing, not wounding.

-Also, Lissa and I have mastered the art of platonic/non-sexual cuddling, and it is so great. I crave physical affection, but I tire of it always leading to sex or even to the desire for sex. I like it when cuddling can just be cuddling.

-I’ve been thinking a lot about how amazing my friends are, both my IRL friends and those of you I only know online/through the post. All of my friends are so talented and so kind and so rad, and I am so blessed to have people like that in my life.

-Last night, I got to go out to eat, to a place that has great microbrews on tap and really delicious portobello mushroom ‘burgers.’

-Today, we got good news about my dad’s condition, news which he didn’t even think he’d know until this coming Friday. I’ve been hesitant to give too many details of what was going on with my dad, but now that it is turning out alright, I feel I can say more: he had prostate cancer, the surgery last Friday was to remove his prostate, and then they had to wait to hear from the pathologist to see if they got all the cancer or if they found anything outside the prostate. Well, the news came today: all the tests came back completely clear. They got the cancer. He’s going to be okay.

-I had a breakthrough with my novel; I’ve spent most of today working on it.

-Saturday is Record Store Day!


Check out this mix on @8tracks: heart breaks, I won’t talk about it by matildawhiskey.
A springtime/cheer up mix. Songs that always put a spring in my step.

Dan Vapid and The Cheats - Die Trying
American Steel - Whiskey, Women, and Blackguarding (Ain’t No Cure For A Broken Heart)
The Mr. T Experience - Semi-OK
Ramones - Howling at the Moon
Neighborhood Brats - We Own the Night
Dillinger Four - Doublewhiskeycokenoice
RVIVR - Resilient Bastard (Shellshag cover)
The Measure (SA) - Please My Favorite Don’t Be Sad (World/Inferno Friendship Society cover)
Common Rider - Classics of Love
Desmond Dekker - You Can Get It If You Really Want
The Toasters - Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down
Deal’s Gone Bad - Good Old Days
Tim Fite - A Little Bit
The Make-Up - (Make Me A) Feelin’ Man
Big Star - In the Street
Bruce Springsteen - No Surrender
Alice Cooper - Escape
Joan Jett & The Blackhearts - Different
Lou Reed - I’m So Free
The Cure - Doing the Unstuck
The Waitresses - They’re All Out of Liquor, Let’s Find Another Party
ESG - The Beat
The Breeders - Cannonball
Janelle Monae - Dance Apocalyptic
M.I.A. - Paper Planes
Dub Narcotic Sound System - Fuck Shit Up
Chelsea Light Moving - Lip
Sacred Order - The Right to Be Poor and Radical
Superchunk - Slack Motherfucker
King Khan & The Shrines - No Regrets
NaNuchKa - Captain Sensible Calling

Check out this mix on @8tracks: heart breaks, I won’t talk about it by matildawhiskey.

A springtime/cheer up mix. Songs that always put a spring in my step.

  1. Dan Vapid and The Cheats - Die Trying
  2. American Steel - Whiskey, Women, and Blackguarding (Ain’t No Cure For A Broken Heart)
  3. The Mr. T Experience - Semi-OK
  4. Ramones - Howling at the Moon
  5. Neighborhood Brats - We Own the Night
  6. Dillinger Four - Doublewhiskeycokenoice
  7. RVIVR - Resilient Bastard (Shellshag cover)
  8. The Measure (SA) - Please My Favorite Don’t Be Sad (World/Inferno Friendship Society cover)
  9. Common Rider - Classics of Love
  10. Desmond Dekker - You Can Get It If You Really Want
  11. The Toasters - Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down
  12. Deal’s Gone Bad - Good Old Days
  13. Tim Fite - A Little Bit
  14. The Make-Up - (Make Me A) Feelin’ Man
  15. Big Star - In the Street
  16. Bruce Springsteen - No Surrender
  17. Alice Cooper - Escape
  18. Joan Jett & The Blackhearts - Different
  19. Lou Reed - I’m So Free
  20. The Cure - Doing the Unstuck
  21. The Waitresses - They’re All Out of Liquor, Let’s Find Another Party
  22. ESG - The Beat
  23. The Breeders - Cannonball
  24. Janelle Monae - Dance Apocalyptic
  25. M.I.A. - Paper Planes
  26. Dub Narcotic Sound System - Fuck Shit Up
  27. Chelsea Light Moving - Lip
  28. Sacred Order - The Right to Be Poor and Radical
  29. Superchunk - Slack Motherfucker
  30. King Khan & The Shrines - No Regrets
  31. NaNuchKa - Captain Sensible Calling

Mark Sandman - “Goddess”

For a thousands years woman’s walked the streets in fear
For a thousand years a woman’s had to walk the streets in fear
There goes the man bullying the woman as he walks through life
There goes the man bullying the woman as he walks through life
The man’s living a lie

I’ll tell you, someday, brother
the Goddess will return
On that day, brother
You are gonna burn
You are gonna burn
You are gonna burn

Listen/purchase: CHRONICLES OF AN APOLOGIST by Anomaly

"Creating a safer space also means taking risks and making sacrifices. In order to build a better and safer community, we have to have hard talks with our friends. Unfortunately, seeing our friends support others who have hurt us happens too often. There is too much talk about the other side of a story but the reality of it is that there are no two sides of rape or abuse. If someone feels as if they have been abused, hurt, and or violated, then they were. If you ever have to justify your actions, or defend why you didn’t hurt someone, you are scum. If you ever defend someone who has hurt others, you are scum and you have just as much blood on your hands as the abuser.

I’m not impressed
You are scum
You are fucking nothing
Apologist
Sympathizer
Drop dead
I will bury you with my own bare hands,
I will rejoice at your time of death.
You are no friend,
You are no fucking ally
There is no fucking room for you
I will bury you with my bare hands,
I will rejoice at your time of death.